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Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss’ widow Allison Holker reflects on her grief journey and learning to laugh again with daughter after dancer’s shock death

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Allison Holker Boss is gaining strength through her children in the wake of her husband’s death.

The professional dancer and mother of three, 35, has been out promoting her new picture book Keep Dancing Through: A Boss Family Groove that she created with her late husband, Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss, before his tragic death by suicide in December 2022.

During a appearance on The Kelly Clarkson Show, she shared how there was a point that she considered not releasing the book as a way to as a way ‘to hold on to it for myself and for my kids just to have something like a time capsule for us to look back on.’ 

Her promotional travels also took her the Today show and the Viall Files podcast, where she shared how she has been able to lean on her three children that she shared with Boss: daughters Weslie, 15, and Zaia, three, and son Maddox, seven, as a source of love and stability.

‘There are so many moments I’ve learned from my kids, or we’ve learned on the forefront together no matter what their age is,’ Holker told host Nick Viall. 

Allison Holker, 35, revealed about the special moment when she and her oldest daughter Weslie, 15, were able to laugh for the first time since the death of Stephen 'tWitch' Boss; the family are pictured in June 2022,  six months before Boss died by suicide

Allison Holker, 35, revealed about the special moment when she and her oldest daughter Weslie, 15, were able to laugh for the first time since the death of Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss; the family are pictured in June 2022,  six months before Boss died by suicide

The So You Think You Can Dance star went on to reveal how she’s been able to learn to be vulnerable in front of her kids, amid her grief, and then proceeded to single out one very special moment she shared with Weslie, the oldest of her children.

‘We had a moment, months after everything happened, we were in our kitchen, and we were, for whatever reason, I don’t even remember what the memory was that got brought up. I don’t even remember. But what I do remember was it was our first laugh, and it was months after it took months before we had that,’ she confessed.

Mother and daughter were bursting out in ‘wild, wild laughter’ when they stopped momentarily to wonder whether it was now okay to start laughing again in life.

‘Immediately after we started laughing, we both looked at each other and stopped like almost on a dime ’cause then there was almost immediate regret, and like, a grief from feeling bad about having that laughter. Like, is this okay?’ she explained.

‘And then we just like hugged it out, and then we cried, and we’re like, “Yeah, no, we can laugh.” We can do that,’ Holker said, while noting that it was a moment she will never ever forget. 

‘Going through that genuine emote, like, you know, emotion with someone else at the same time was something that I’ll never forget with her,’ she said of the experience with her daughter. ‘And then we almost had to walk each other through it and convince each other for each other that it was okay.’

The choreographer admitted the moment also made her feel even more grateful to have her family like Weslie in her life.

‘I’m just really grateful to have her and to champion her through all this and her champion me through it,’ she continued. ‘But she’s lovely, and so I fully believe we can learn more lessons from our own kids and they can sometimes learn from us.’

The choreographer is currently out promoting her new picture book that she wrote with her late husband Stephen 'tWitch' Boss, including a stop on the Today show

The choreographer is currently out promoting her new picture book that she wrote with her late husband Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss, including a stop on the Today show

The mother of three wrote the book with her late husband, and then wondered whether to halt the release as a way to keep something of their loved one to themselves

The mother of three wrote the book with her late husband, and then wondered whether to halt the release as a way to keep something of their loved one to themselves

Holker and her daughter Weslie have been making the rounds in the promotion of the family's picture book, which is a 'heartfelt celebration of family and their motto: 'keep dancing through'

Holker and her daughter Weslie have been making the rounds in the promotion of the family’s picture book, which is a ‘heartfelt celebration of family and their motto: ‘keep dancing through’

Part of the story of her kids can also be found within the pages of Keep Dancing Through: A Boss Family Groove, which is a ‘heartfelt celebration of family and their motto: ‘keep dancing through.’

‘It really was a testament to our family. We wanted to write something that shared a day in the life of who we are, what we are, and we really believe in affirmations. So you really follow my kids each go on this journey and how we get through everything,’ Holker explained.

Encouraging readers to dance to a beat that’s all their own, Mom, Dad, Weslie, Maddox, and Zaia groove through the ups and downs of a typical day in the book.

Mother and daughter shared a moment with Today show hosts Hoda Kotb and Jenna Bush Hager after their interview on the talk show

Mother and daughter shared a moment with Today show hosts Hoda Kotb and Jenna Bush Hager after their interview on the talk show

'It feels like we have a new chance for a new beginning as a family to understand and learn and grow,' Holker said of her life moving forward with her their children

‘It feels like we have a new chance for a new beginning as a family to understand and learn and grow,’ Holker said of her life moving forward with her their children

Birthday celebration: To mark what would have been Twitch's 41st birthday, his family spend part of their day on September 29 at his gravesite

Birthday celebration: To mark what would have been Twitch’s 41st birthday, his family spend part of their day on September 29 at his gravesite

While contemplating whether to release the book or keep it within the family, Holker ‘kept reading the title over and over again’ Keep Dancing Through, I was like that’s all I can do, and that all I can do with my kids and what I can teach them.’

‘I felt like God and universe was like, “No you have to do this” because everyone that’s followed my journey and followed his journey and our family coming together, and me having kids with him everyone’s been so supportive and lovely and it was a way for me to give back to them that they can “keep dancing through” as well,’ the Anoka County, Minnesota native revealed.

In the wake of her appearance on the Today show,  Holker shared a photo of herself and Weslie together on the set, along with some words of wisdom to live bu moving forward.

‘It feels like we have a chance for a new beginning as a family to understand and learn and grow,’ she wrote. ‘But to also step into something that is just a new version of who we are now.’ 

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