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I regret my transition


DEAR DEIDRE: Transitioning from being a woman to a trans man 20 years ago is the biggest regret of my life.

At the time I’d lived as a man for five years before I went through with the operation. I’m 51 now and I realised I can’t ever be a man. I want to be a woman again.

I now look masculine, with no breasts and no female genitals. My workplace has been really good. I talked to human resources and changed my name back to the pretty name my parents gave me. They even got me new name tags.

I’ve been trying to grow my hair but it grows very slowly and members of the public who come into our office still call me “sir” or say, “It’s Mr…?” and I have to try to put them right.

I don’t recognise myself any longer and feel I’ve made a huge mistake for my actions all those years ago.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry. You did what was right for you at the time but now you feel unhappy and that must be awful.

Talk to your doctor about getting a referral to a consultant to see whether you could be allowed hormone treatment to help you feel more feminine.

Your hairdresser may have some ideas about how best to do your hair which will enhance your looks.For emotional support, reach out to The Beaumont Society,  (beaumontsociety.org.uk, 01582 412 220) which helps cross-dressers, transsexuals and their families.

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