Aussie parents who claim their baby boy ‘spoke his first word when he was six weeks old’ are targeted by trolls
An Australian mother who claims her son spoke his first word when he was just six weeks old says she wasn’t expecting the hatred she received from vicious online trolls.
Selaphim Saddharti and her partner Jackson, from Sydney, were over the moon when they apparently heard their baby boy Francis say ‘hello’ when he was just six weeks old.
By 11 weeks, they claimed he could say his first sentence, “I love you.”
His mother is now three and a half months old and says his vocabulary includes “hello,” “mama,” “I love you,” and “blue.”
The surprising claim would mean that Francis is one of the youngest babies in the world to start talking.
Generally, babies start talking between 12 and 18 months old, but there has been another report of a baby saying hello at just eight weeks.
Selaphim Saddharti and her partner Jackson (pictured), from Sydney, were shocked but delighted to hear their son Francis say ‘hello’ when he was just six weeks old
At 11 weeks, Francis’ mother said he could say his first sentence, “I love you.” Now that he’s three and a half months old, his vocabulary apparently includes “hello,” “mom,” “I love you,” and “blue”
Selaphim said she enjoyed communicating with her son and hoped he would speak, but she had no intention or specific method of teaching him.
She and Jackson intuitively started touching Francis’ face and lips when they said a specific word and they believe that’s how he learned it.
“I don’t really feel like it was a written method,” Selaphim said.
“We just wanted to connect with our baby.
“There’s nothing special about it, it’s hardly a method. It’s just interacting with your child from a loving space.’
To teach a baby to talk, the mother recommends people to put your hand on their neck every time you say a word you want them to say, and to gently touch their face, nose or mouth, then to pause and create space for a response .
Selaphim and Jackson intuitively started touching Francis’ face and lips when they said a specific word and they believe that’s how he “learned to speak” – but they admit they had no lesson plan
As Francis picked up on more words, the proud mother began recording and sharing it online, and the clips soon gained hundreds of thousands of views.
Selaphim’s videos are littered with comments from trolls claiming she’s lying or just imagining her son talking.
The mother said she cannot understand why the videos are causing so much anger and hatred.
“Better put this energy into your children,” she advised.
Many accused Francis of “cooing and not talking.”
“Talk about hearing what you want to hear,” wrote another.
“All I can say is it doesn’t have any effect on how well they do later on so don’t think they’re a genius,” another commented.
How to teach your baby to talk:
1. Make sure your hand is on their neck.
2. Each time you say a word you want him or her to say, gently touch the face, nose, or mouth. Especially the mouth, because it makes them aware of the body part that was touched.
3. Pause and make room for a response.
4. Assume they know everything you say and you’ll get a better answer, but don’t project standards onto them.
5. It is best to learn them as early as possible.
Speaking about the personal comments she receives from trolls online, the mom said that while it’s upsetting, she’s still happy to help other moms.
Many parents have commented thanking Selaphim for offering her advice and tips, sharing that their children have also learned to speak using her method.
My beautiful little human started saying ‘I love you’ at 10 weeks. I used the same signals,” said one mother.
‘Oh it worked. Thanks for your tips,” wrote another.
“The video created a rift between the general public,” Selaphim explains.
“I don’t expect everyone to accept everything they don’t really want to understand. What’s important to me is that moms take the tips and comments and say they’re working.”
Many parents have commented thanking Selaphim for offering her advice and tips, sharing that their children have also learned to speak with her method
She added that even if you don’t think it’s communication, putting energy into it and having quality time early in the baby’s life will pay off when the child is older.
The fact that she actually used the word talk was what upset people the most as there is a ‘grey line’ regarding what is talk and what is communication.
“If it sounds like it, feels like it, then it’s good for you and your baby,” the mother said.
People make fun of her for saying her baby understands what she’s saying, but Selaphim clarified that she means that while he may not subconsciously understand the words, it’s understood somewhere.
“Many mothers will know that sometimes you have miraculous moments when you swear that the child knows exactly what you are saying. It’s the connection between mother and child,” Selaphim said.
“Those who get it, get it.”
The first time Francis spoke was with his father, who Selaphim thinks responds better because of his deep voice.
His dad told me he said “hello” and I was like “what?” laughed the proud mother, recalling the fond memory.
The first time Francis spoke was with his father, who Selaphim thinks responds better because of his deep voice
“Then I heard it and eventually we got it on camera and we knew the other one wasn’t optimistic about cooing.”
She was eager to hear him say “I love you” and practiced with him until he did.
“I wanted him to say, ‘I love you’ because I love him so much and say that all the time,” she explained.
She says it’s best to teach them as early as possible, but advised her followers not to project standards onto their children.
“What works for my baby may not work for yours. If it doesn’t work don’t be discouraged, because all babies learn different things at different times, but you’ll never know if you never try.”
Francis now says ‘hello’ and ‘I love you’ unsolicited all day long, he will say ‘mama’ when he needs something and ‘blue’ when he feels lonely.
He also says the The Indonesian word “nenem”, a baby’s favorite word that Selaphim’s own mother used to say to her. She said ‘nenem’ every time she breastfed Francis and now when she says the word he knows it’s time to eat.
Selaphim has no intention of teaching him other words yet.
“Other than food, love, or hello as a 3-month-old baby, what can you talk about?” she laughed.
Her next plan is to teach him potty training. The mom said she got a tip online from a woman who uses auditory association to make exercising easier.
“Each time he poops, make a distinct sound. The lady in the video makes a ‘ts’ sound, and when it came to training she would hang him over the toilet and make the sound and he would know it’s time to go,” she explained.
Selaphim has always tried her best not to just take generic prenatal vitamins, but to put a lot of thought and effort into her fish oil and vitamins during pregnancy. She also tried to minimize trauma during birth by going to a public hospital that offered water births
“When I was pregnant I really wanted him to be intelligent. I wanted to heal our generational trauma and give him the best foundation,” she explained.
She said that as time went on and they saw how responsive and intelligent he was, they felt the name Francis suited him.
Selaphim has always tried her best not to just take generic prenatal vitamins, but to put a lot of thought and effort into her fish oil and vitamins during pregnancy.
She also tried to minimize trauma during birth by going to a public hospital that offered water births.
“He came out and wasn’t crying at all,” she said.
“He looked at me and we looked at each other, it was a very beautiful moment. The nurses need the baby to cry, but as a mother you know they react in their own way.’